Saturday, December 4, 2021

Love, Save The Empty

 


    There was a time when I planned to only look for a girlfriend when I’m mature enough to get married. There was a time when I though a girlfriend would only be a distraction to what I want to achieve in my life. And like any other plans in life, they rarely go exactly as planned. But in this case, it went very much better than anyone could have planned.

 

There was this moment, at the hallway of our faculty, 10 years ago, that I told this one girl that I would only enter a relationship if I knew or hope that she would be my wife someday. I told the girl if by god’s will it was not meant to be; I would still want her in my life because that was how special she was to me. Some would call it naïve but that was how sure I was of what she meant to me and will mean to me. Fast forward 10 years, she is now my wife and though the journey was long and full of obstacles, my belief that she was the one never wavered. You were the one friend that has always been there for me and one I simply can’t live without. All my life, I thought it’d be hard to find the one till I found you, and I find it bittersweet, because you gave me something to lose.

 

There was a time when I prayed to god on the way I wanted to meet my future wife. I prayed that I would fall in love to a friend. A friend that understands me and supports me. I didn’t like the idea of chasing a girl because I was afraid the excitement will fade as the chasing ends. God rarely answers my prayer exactly how I want it. God gave me you, a friend whom I got close with over time. A friend I never knew I needed. A friend whom till today I never knew the exact moment I fell in love with. That was how natural it was and I wouldn’t want it any other way. I fell in love with you mind, heart and soul while we were friends and was convinced that you were the one after getting to know you better, and I have never looked back ever since. Looking at how beautiful you are on the outside as well as on the inside made me realise how lucky of a person I am to have you in my life.

 



There was a time when my studies were a bit astray. There was a time when I though having a girlfriend would make me astray even further. Little did I know it was totally the other way around. You helped me in my studies more than you know. I was so motivated to study and succeed because of you and for you. You were my motivation, and forever will be. I simply could not imagine finishing ACCA as fast as I did without you every step of the way. Before you I only thought of being successful first before having a girlfriend but you made me realise success is nothing if we don’t have anyone to share it with. And there is no one person I want to share any moments with other than you. You have always pushed me hard and supported me in every decision I made, even when it didn’t suit you. You were there during the hard times and the one person I want to celebrate with during the good times.

 




            There was another prayer of mine that was directly answered too. One that no one knows till today, not even you. I actually prayed for a long-distanced relationship. Crazy I know. I prayed for it because I saw it as an ultimate test of how strong a relationship is. And there you were, with a job offer in Qatar. Devastated would be an understatement. Praying for it was a constant regret. But god is the best planner of them all. We were both on our own separate and challenging journeys. There were a lot of hard times, no doubt, but I could always see myself being with you at the end of it all. Never once I have doubted that you are the one for me. Even in the distance, you were there for me when I needed you, and you supported me in any way you could even when you didn’t need to.  

 

An inspiration. That’s what you are to me and to many others. You always strive for better and I want to be a better person every day for you. It’s clear that you inspire people around you and whoever who knows you. They either want to be you or want to do better because of you. And here I am, actually have you in my life and now, forever. And every day I feel lucky that you are in my life. There are days, I wake up, and I pinch myself, you’re with me and not someone else. And I’m scared, yeah, I’m still afraid, that it’s all a dream. Because you still look so perfect as days go by. Even the worse ones, you make me smile. I’d stop the world if it gave us time.

 

10 years. That’s how long we’ve known each other. 10 years of getting to know each other. And that understanding of each other transcends and goes beyond love. No one understands me better than you do. No one comes even near you. There is no one I look up to and want to impress but you, even after all these years. There is no one as kind-hearted as you. There is no one who values friendship and wants to cherish it more than you. You are the direct opposite of me, yet you complement me ever so well. You literally complete me. And I mean every word of it. 10 years. Looks like we made it, look how far we’ve come my baby. We might’ve took the long way, but we knew we’d get there someday. And we have J

 



By now, I should already be your husband. Would be weird if I post this and I’m not. After 10 years, I could finally call you my wife. We have gone through so much together and there will be more and tougher challenges ahead. As always, I have never promised you anything other than to try my best. You deserve a lot in life, and I will do my utmost best to give all you deserve in this life. I will do my best to take care of you in every way possible. I will do my utmost best to give you the unconditional support that you have given me. I will try my best to make you happy and be there for you when you are sad. I will be there when you need me and every time that counts. I am not perfect, but I will be the best version of myself for you whenever I can. I hope I have made you feel as grateful to have me in your life, as much as you have made me. And I hope I can continue to make you feel happy to have me till we grow old. You are my first love and my last. Love you, always and forever.

 





10 years and counting.

2011-2021

20.11.2021 ß Nikah date in case it’s not obvious enough

 

 


Thanks to those who were there and helped throughout our journey. Thank you to those who helped for the wedding ceremonies. You know who you are. Pray that all will go well in this next adventure of ours. Godspeed